Chapter Introduction
٣٤ ـ باب في الوصية بالنساء
Riyad-us-Saliheen
Chapter 34: About Treating Women Kindly
Hadith 162: Hadith 162
١٦٢ - عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ قَالَ : : قالَ النَّبِيََََُُِّّّّّّّ السَّاعِي عَلَى الأَرْمَلَة وَالٍمسكين ، كالْمُجَاهِد في سَبِيلِ اللَّهُ ) . ، أو الْقَائِمِ اللَّيْلَ الصَّائِمِ النَّهَارَ . رواه البخاري
Translation: 162. Narrated Abu-Huraira: ' The Prophet said: " The one who looks after a widow or a poor person is like a warrior who fights for Allah's Cause, or like him who offers prayer all the night and observes fasting all the day. " (Bukhari)
الْقُرْآنُ الْكَرِيمُسُورَةُ النِّسَاءِ (4:19)
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا يَحِلُّ لَكُمْ أَن تَرِثُوا النِّسَاءَ كَرْهًا ۖ وَلَا تَعْضُلُوهُنَّ لِتَذْهَبُوا بِبَعْضِ مَا آتَيْتُمُوهُنَّ إِلَّا أَن يَأْتِينَ بِفَاحِشَةٍ مُّبَيِّنَةٍ ۚ وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ ۚ فَإِن كَرِهْتُمُوهُنَّ فَعَسَىٰ أَن تَكْرَهُوا شَيْئًا وَيَجْعَلَ اللَّهُ فِيهِ خَيْرًا كَثِيرًا
( سُورَةُ النِّسَاءِ (4:19) )
Translation: Allah said:
Translation: " O you who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women against their will; and you should not treat them with harshness, that you may take away part of the dowry you have given them, unless they commit Fahishatin Mobayyina (improper behavior). And live with them honorably. If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing and Allah brings through it a great deal of good. * " (4:19)
الْقُرْآنُ الْكَرِيمُسُورَةُ النِّسَاءِ (4:21)
وَكَيْفَ تَأْخُذُونَهُ وَقَدْ أَفْضَىٰ بَعْضُكُمْ إِلَىٰ بَعْضٍ وَأَخَذْنَ مِنكُم مِّيثَاقًا غَلِيظًا
( سُورَةُ النِّسَاءِ (4:21) )
Translation: "... they (women) have taken from you a solemn covenant. * " (4:21)
Hadith 163: Hadith 163
عَنْ جَابِرٍ ابْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ قَالَ : رَسُوَلَاللَّهِ صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : " ... فَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ فِي النِّسَاءِ فَإِنَََََّّّّّْكُمْ أَخَذْتُمُوهُنَّ بِأَمَانِ اللَّهِ وَاسْتَحْلَلْتُمْ فُرُوجَهُنَّ بِكَلِمَةِ اللَّهِ
١٦٣- حديث أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ ، عَنِ النَّبِيََََُُِِّّّّّّّّ صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ : : مِنْ كَانَ يُؤْمِنُ بِاللَّهُ ) . وَالٍيَوْمِ الآخِرِ فَلَا يُؤْذِي جَارَهُ ، وَاسْتَوْصُوا بِالنِّسَاءِ خَيْرًا فَإِنَّهُنَّ خَلِقْنَ مِنْ ضِلَعٍ ، وَإِنَّ أَعْوَجَ شَيْءٍ فِي الضَّلَعِ أَعْلَاهُ ، فَإِنْ ذَهَبْتَ تُقِيمُهُ كَسَرَتَهُ ، وَإِنْ تَرَكْتُهُ لَمْ يَزَلْ أَعْوَجَ ، فَاسْتَوْصُوا بِالنِّسَاءِ خَيْرًا أخرجه البخاري
Translation: 163 Narrated Abu-Huraira: ' The prophet said: " Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should not hurt (trouble) his neighbor. And I command you to take care of the women in a good manner, for they are created from a rib, and the most crooked portion of the rib is its upper part, if you try to straighten it you will break it, and if you leave it it will remain crooked. So I commend you to take care of the woman in a good manner. " (Bukhari)
١٦٤ - عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهُ ) . بْنِ زَمْعَةَ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ : أَنََّّهُ سَمِعَ النَّبِيََََُُِِّّّّّّّّ صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَخْطُبُ ، وَذَكَرَ النّاقَةَ وَالٍَّذِي عَقَرَها ، فَقَالَ : رَسُوَلَاللهِ صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : ( ( إِذَ انْبَعَثَ أَشْقَاهَا ) : انْبَعَثَ لَهَا رَجُلٌ عَزِيزٌ عارمٌ ، مِنْيعٌ في رَهْطِهِ ، مِثْلُ أَبِي زَمْعَةَ ) . وَذَكَرَ النِّسَاءَ
فَقَالَ : ( يَعَمٍّدُ أَحَدُكُمْ يَجلُدٍّ امْرَأَتَهُ جَلْدَ الْعَبْدِ ، فَلَعَلَهُ يُضَاجِعُهَا مِنْ آخِرِ يَوْمِهِ ) . ثُمَََّّّ وَعَظَهُمْ فِي ضَحِكهِمْ مِنَ الضَّرْطَةِ ، وَقَالَ : ( لَمَ يَصْحَكُ أَحَدُكُمْ مِمَا يَفْعَلُ ) . رواه البخاري
Translation: 164. Abdullah ibn Zama'a said that he had heard the Prophet ﷺ delivering a speech, and he mentioned a camel and the one who had slain it. Allah's Messenger quoted: " When the most wicked man among them went forth (to kill the camel)... * " (91: 12) Then, he said: “ (That man must have been) a tough man, whose equal was rare, who enjoyed the protection of his people like Abu-Zama'a. He went forth to (kill) it. Abu-Zama'a added: The Prophet then mentioned about women and said: “ It is not wise for anyone of you to lash out at his wife like a slave, for he might sleep with her the same evening. Then he advised them not to laugh when somebody breaks wind, and said: " Why should anybody laugh at what he himself does? (Bukhari)
Hadith 165: Hadith 165
١٦٥ - حَدَّثَنَا الْحَسَنُ بْنُ عَلِيٍّ الْخَلالُ حَدَّثَنَا الْحُسَيْنُ بْنُ عَلِيٍّ الْجُعْقِيُّ عَنْ زَائِدَةَ عَنْ شَبِيبٍ بْنِ غَرَقَدَةَ عَنْ سُلَيْمَانَ ابْنِ عَمْرِو بْنِ الْأَحْوَصِ قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي أَبِي أَنَّهُ شَهِدَ حَجَّةَ الْوَدَاعِ مَعَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَحَمِدَ اللَّهَ وَأَثْنَى عَلَيْهِ وَذَكَّرَ وَوَعَظَ فَذَكَرَ فِي الْحَدِيث قِصَّةُ فَقَالَ أَلا وَاسْتَوْصُوا بِالنِّسَاءِ خَيْرًا فَإِنَّمَا هُنَّ عَوَانٌ عِندَكُمْ لَيْسَ تَمْلِكُونَ مِنْهُنَّ شَيْئًا غَيْرَ ذَلِكَ إِلَّا أَنْ يَأْتِينَ بِفَاحِشَةٍ مُبَيِّنَةٍ فَإِن فَعَلْنَ فَاهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِي الْمَضَاجِعِ وَاضْرِبُوهُنَّ ضَرْبًا غَيْرَ مُبَرِّحٍ فَإِنْ أَطَعْنَكُمْ فَلا تَبْغُوا عَلَيْهِنَّ سَبِيلا ألا إِنَّ لَكُمْ عَلَى نِسَائِكُمْ حَقًّا وَلِنِسَائِكُمْ عَلَيْكُمْ حقًّا فَأَمَا حَقَّكُمْ عَلَى نِسَائِكُمْ فَلا يُوطئنَ فُرُشَكُمْ مَنْ تَكْرَهُونَ وَلَا يَأْذَنَّ فِي بُيُوتِكُمْ لِمَن تَكْرَهُونَ أَلا وَحَقَّهُنَّ عَلَيْكُمْ أَنْ تُحْسِنُوا إِلَيْهِنَّ فِي كِسْوَتِهِنَّ
وَطَعَامِهِنَّ قَالَ : أَبو عِيسَى هَذَا حَدِيثٌ حَسَنٌ صَحِيحٌ وَمَعْنَى قَوْلِهِ عَوَانٌ عِنْدَكُمْ يَعْنِي أَسْرَى فِي أَيٌُّّدِيكُمْ
Translation: 165. Narrated Solayman ibn Amr ibn Al-Ahwas: ' My father narrated to me that he had attended Hajjat Al-Wada'a (the Farewell Hajj) with the Messenger of Allah who delivered a speech. He praised Allah His due praise, admonished the people, and mentioned a story, then he said: " Behold! Be kind to women for they are as captives under your protection, and you do not possess anything other than that except they bring forth a manifest wrong deed. If they did so, separate from them in the bed and hit them lightly. If they obey you, do not transgress. Indeed, you have rights on your women and they also have rights on you. As to your rights on them, they are not permitted to admit anyone you dislike to your houses. As to their rights on you, it is for you to treat them kindly and moderately as regards their clothing and food. "