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Riyad-us-Saliheen

Chapter 325: About Dislike of Preferring Some of One's Sons to Others in Gift

Chapter Introduction

٣٢٥ - باب كراهة تفضيل الوالد بعض أولَاده على بعض في الهبة

Hadith 1022: Hadith 1022

۱۰۲۲ - حديث النّعَمٍّانِ بْنِ بَشِيرٍ ، أَنَّ أَبَاهُ أَتَى بِهِ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهُ ) . ، فَقَالَ : إِنَّْي نَكلْتُ ابْنِي هَذَا غُلَامًا ، فَقَالَ : أَكُلِّ وَلَدَكَ نَعَلْتَ مِثْلَهُ قَالَ : لَا ، قَالَ : فَارْجِعْهُ أخرجه البخاري

Translation: 1022. Narrated Al-No'aman ibn Basheer that his father took him to Allah's Messenger and said: " I have given this son of mine a slave. " The Prophet ﷺ asked, " Have you given all your sons the like? " He replied in the negative. The Prophet said: " Take back your gift then. " (Bukhari).

٣٢٥ - باب تحريم إحداد المرأة على ميت أكثر من ثلاثة أيام إلا على زوج أربعة أشهر وعشرة أيام

Translation: Days except for a Husband (Mourning

Translation: Period is 4 Months and 10 Days)

Hadith 1023: Hadith 1023

۱۰۲۳ - حَدَّثَنَا الْأَنْصَارِيُّ حَدَّثَنَا مَعْنُ بْنُ عِيسَى أَنْبَأَنَا مَالِكُ بْنُ أَنَسٍ عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ أَبِي بَكْرِ بْنِ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ عَمْرِو بْنِ حَزْمٍ عَنْ حُمَيْدِ بْنِ نَافِعٍ عَنْ زَيْنَبَ بِنْتِ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ أَنْهَا أَخْبَرَتْهُ بِهَذِهِ الأحاديث الثلاثَةِ قَالَتْ زَيْنَبُ دَخَلْتُ عَلَى أُمِّ حَبِيبَةً زَوْجِ النَّبِيََََُُِِّّّّّّّّ صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ حِينَ تُوُفِّيَ أَبُوهَا أَبُو سُفْيَانَ بْنُ حَرْبٍ فَدَعَتْ بِطِيبٍ فِيهِ صَفْرَةٌ خَلُوقٌ أَوْ غَيْرُهُ فَدَهَنَتْ بِهِ جَارِيَةً ثُمَّ مَسَّتْ بِعَارِضَيْهَا ثُمَّ قَالَتْ وَاللَّهِ مَا لي بالطَّيب من حَاجَةٍ غَيْرَ أَنِّي سَمِعْتُ سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَقُولُ لا يَحِلُّ لَامْرَأَةٍ تُؤْمِنْ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الآخِرِ أَنْ تُحِدَّ عَلَى مَيِّتِ فَوْقَ ثَلَاثَةِ أَيٌَُّّّامٍ إِلَّا عَلَى زَوْجٍ أَرْبَعَةَ أَشْهُرٍ وَعَشْرًا

Translation: 1023. Narrated Homayd ibn Nafe'e that Zaynab bint Umm Salama narrated to him the following three Hadiths. She said; ' I entered on Umm Habeeba, the wife of the Prophet, when her father Abu-Sofyan ibn Harb has died. She asked for some perfume that had yellowness and applied it to a slave girl then she applied it to herself. Then, she said; ' By Allah, I am not in need of perfume, but I had heard the Messenger of Allah saying: " It is not lawful for a woman that believes in Allah and the Last Day to mourn 32 over a deceased more than three 32 Mourning over the deceased does mean lament as some people practice. It is only the abandonment of embellishment.

Translation: days except for the husband. She mourns for four months and ten days. ' (At-Termizi).

١٠٢٤- قَالَتْ زَيْنَبُ فَدَخَلْتُ عَلَى زَيْنَبَ بِنْتِ جَحْشٍ حِينَ تُوُفِّيَ أَخُوهَا فَدَعَتْ بِطِيبٍ فَمَسَّتْ مِنْهُ ثُمَََّّّ قَالَتْ وَاللهِ مَا لِي فِي الطَّيِّبِ مِنْ حَاجَةٍ غَيْرَ أَنِّي سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللهِ صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَقُولُ لا يَجِلُّ لامْرَأَةٍ تُؤْمِنُ بِاللَّهُ ) . وَالْيَوْمِ الْآخِرِ أَنْ تُحِدَّ عَلَى مَيِّتٍ فَوْقَ ثَلَاثِ لَيَالٍ إِلَّا عَلَى زَوْجٍ أَرْبَعَةَ أَشْهُرٍ وَعَشْرًا

Translation: 1024. Zaynab also said; ' I entered on Zaynab bint Jahsh when her brother died. She asked for perfume and applied it to her, then she said; ' By Allah, I am not in need of perfume, but I had heard the Messenger of Allah saying: “ It is not lawful for a woman that believes in Allah and the Last Day to mourn.33 over a deceased more than three nights except for the husband. She mourns for four months and ten days. " (At-Termizi).

١٠٢٥- قَالَتْ زَيْنَبُ وَسَمِعْتُ أُمِّي أُمَّ سَلَمَةَ تَقُولُ جَاءَتِ امْرَأَةٍ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللهِ صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَقَالَتْ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهُ ) . إِنَّ ابْنَتِي تُوُفِّيَ عَنْهَا زَوْجُهَا وَقَدِ اشْتَكَتْ عَيْنَيْهَا أَفَنَكْحَلُهَا فَقَالَ رَسُوَلَالله لا لا مَرَّتَيْنِ أَوْ ثلاث مَرَّات كُلُّ ذَلِكَ يَقُولُ لا ثُمَََّّّ قَالَ إِنَّمَا هِيَ أَرْبَعَةَ أَشْهُرٍ وَعَشْرًا وَقَدْ كَانَتْ إِحْدَاكُنَّ فِي الْجَاهِلِيَّةِ تَرْمِي بِالْبَعْرَةِ عَلَى رَأْسِ الْحَوْلِ قَالَ وَفِي الْبَاب عَنْ فُرَيْعَةَ بنت مالك أُخْت أَبِي سَعِيدٍ الْخُدْرِيِّ وَحَفْصَةَ بِنْتِ عُمَرَ قَالَ أَبو عِيسَى حَدِيثُ زَيْنَبَ حَدِيثٌ حَسَنٌ صَحِيحٌ وَالْعَمَلُ عَلَى هَذَا عِنْدَ أَصْحَابِ النَّبِيََََُُِِّّّّّّّّ وَغَيْرِهِمْ أَنََّّ الْمُتَوَفَّى عَنْهَا زَوْجُهَا تَتَّقِي فِي عِدَّتِهَا الطَّيبَ وَالزِّينَةَ وَهُوَ قَولُ سُفْيَانَ الثَّوْرِيِّ وَمَالِكِ بْنِ

Translation: 33 Mourning over the deceased does mean lament as some people practice. It is only the abandonment of embellishment.

1025. Zaynab also said; ' I heard my mother Umm Salama saying that a woman came to the Messenger of Allah and said; ' O Messenger of Allah! My daughter's husband has died and her eyes got soared, would she apply the kohl on them? " The Messenger of Allah said: " No. " He said this twice or thrice. Then he said: " It is four months and ten days and one of you used to stay for a complete year³4 34. " (At-Termizi).

Abu-Issa said; ' The Hadith of Zaynab is Hasan Saheeh and the people of knowledge of the Prophet's companions acted on it. They said that she whose usband has died should shun applying perfume and other cosmetics during her Idda. This is the opinion of Sofyanoth-Thawri, Malek ibn Anas, Al-Shafe'e, Ahmed, and Ishaq. '