Chapter 271: About the Forbiddance of Staying in Privacy with a Non-Mahram Woman
Chapter Introduction
۲۷۱ باب تحريم الخلوة بالأجنبية
Translation: [ Sexual inclination between men and women is an instinctive characteristic. It seems to be the strongest lust of man. For, there would be some threats to man's life if he tried to satisfy it illegally, but that lust overcomes this threat.
Translation: One of the righteous people said; ' If I was entrusted the common treasury of the Muslims, I would be able to fulfill that commitment. But, if I was entrusted with a Negro woman I fear lest I cannot fulfill that commitment. '
Since man was created weak and desirous, Islam imposes the limits that gurantee avoiding satisfying this lust except through the legal channel i.e. marriage or the female captives of war according to the just rules of Islam.
Examples of these precautions are veling women's bodies entirely, avoiding the speech and the dresses that is liable to exite men sexually, prohibiting men from being in privacy with the non-Mahram women, ordering the Muslim ruler to facilitate marriage affairs before the youth, encouraging the young men to get marry for marriage is one way for sustainment... etc.
Translation: " Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at non-Mahram women), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual intercourses). That is purer for them. Verily, Allah is All-Aware of what they do * " * S: 24-30. And
Translation: " O you who believe! Enter not houses other than your own, until you have asked permission and greeted those in them; that is better for you, in order that you may remember * 1 S: 24-26. And
Translation: " And marry those among you who are single (a man who has no wife and the woman who has no husband) and (also marry) the pious and capable ones) of your (males) slaves and maid-servants (female slaves). If they would be poor, Allah will enrich them out of His Bounty. And Allah is All- Sufficient for His creatures ' needs, All-Knowing (About the state of the people) * " S: 24-32.
Translation: “ And let those who find not the financial means for marriage keep themselves chaste, that Allah would enrich them of His Bounty. And such of your slaves who seek to free themselves (from slavery), facilitate this affair for them if you find that there is good and honesty in them. And give them something yourselves out of the wealth of Allah that He has bestowed upon you. And force not your maids to adultery hoping for some perishable worldly possessions, if they desire chastity. But if anyone compels them (to commit qadultery), then, after such compulsion, Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful (to those women, i.e. He will forgive them because they have been forced to do this evil action unwillingly) S: 24-33.
Translation: Narrated Oqba ibn Amer; ' The Messenger of Allah said: " Beware of entering on women. " A man of Al-Ansar said; ' What is About Al-Hamw (0), O Messenger of Allah? ' He said: “ Al-Hamwo equals death. "
Abu-Issa said; ' The Hadith of Oqba is Hasan Saheeh and this Hadith warns the Muslims against entering on women i.e. that which one sits in privacy with them as the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: " Most certainly, no man sits in seclusion with a woman except that Satan is their third. " Al-Hamwo is the husband's brother. It is understood from the Hadith that the Messenger of Allah disliked that Al-Hamwo stay in seclusion with his brother's wife. "
Translation: 9 Imam An-Nawawi said; ' The husbands relatives besides the husband's father and sons are meant here because the former are Mahrams to his wife. The meant here are the husband's brother, cousin... etc. In other words every man who is legitimately permitted to marry her if she was not married to that person. The Hadith likened secluding with the woman in such cases as leading to death. This is known in Arabic. They say; ' Lion is death and war is death ' meaning it leads to death.
Translation: Narrated Jaber; The Prophet said: “ Beware of entering on Al Mogheebat for Satan circulates within one of you as the blood circulates in his veins. " We said; ' Does he circulates within you as well? " He said: ' Yes. But Allah supported me against him so he submitted 10.
Translation: 10 The word does not mean that his devil reverted to Islam, but it means that he was turned away from the Prophet, hence the Messenger of Allah will not be harmed by him.
Hadith
Narrated Abu-Ayyoob; ' The Messenger of Allah said: " Four things are of the Messengers of Allah's way of life; bashfulness, applying perfume, cleaning teeth with As- Siwaak, and getting married. "
Translation: Narrated Abdullah ibn Mas'oud; ' We went out with the Prophet while we were young possessing nothing and he said: “ O assemble of young men! Take shelter in marriage for it helps lower one's gaze and guard one's chastity. He that cannot afford for it (marriage), let him observe fasting for it is a shield for him. "
Translation: " And indeed, We had sent Messengers before you (O Muhammad) and made for them wives and offspring. And it was not for a Messenger to bring a sign except by Allah's Leave. (For) every matter there is a decree (from Allah) * " S: 13-38.
Translation: He also said that the Hadith of Samora is Hasan Ghareeb (on) and that it was narrated through other routes.
Translation: Now, let us read what Imam Al-Nawawi compiled in the same concern.]
Allah said:
" O you who believe! Enter not the Prophet's houses, unless permission is given to you for a meal, (and then) not (so early as) to wait for its preparation. But when you are invited, enter, and when you have taken your meal, disperse without sitting for chatting. Verily, such (behavior) annoys the Prophet, and he is shy of (asking) you (to go out); but Allah is not shy of (telling you) the truth. And when you ask (his wives) for anything you want, ask them from behind a screen: that is purer for your hearts and for their hearts. And it is not (right) for you that you should annoy Allah's Messenger, nor that you should ever marry his wives after him (his death). Verily, With Allah that shall be an enormity *** S: 33-53.
Translation: 915. Narrated Ibn Abbas; " The Messenger of Allah invoked Allah's curse on the women who assume the masculine manners and the men who behave effeminately. " (At-Termizi).
Translation: 916. Narrated Jaber; ' The Prophet said: " Beware of entering on Al Mogheebat for Satan circulates within one of you as the blood circulates in his veins. " We said; ' Does he circulates within you as well? " He said: " Yes. But Allah supported me against him so he submitted ". "
Translation: 917. Narrated Oqba ibn Amer; " The Messenger of Allah said: " Beware of entering on women. " A man of Al Ansar said; ' What is About Al Hamw (0) 12, O Messenger of Allah? ' He said: " Al Hamwo equals death. "
Translation: 11 The word does not mean that his devil reverted to Islam, but it means that he was turned away from the Prophet, hence the Messenger of Allah ﷺ .will not be harmed by him 12 Imam An-Nawawi said; ' The husbands relatives besides the husband's father and sons are meant here because the former are Mahrams to his wife. The meant here are the husband's brother, cousin... etc. In other words every man who is legitimately permitted to marry her if she was not married to that person. The Hadith likened secluding with the woman in such cases as leading
Abu-Issa said; ' The Hadith of Oqba is Hasan Saheeh and this Hadith warns the Muslims against entering on women i.e. what one sits in privacy with them as the Messenger of Allah.
said: " Most certainly, no man sits in seclusion with a woman except that Satan is their third. " Al Hamwo is the husband's brother. It is understood from the Hadith that the Messenger of Allah disliked that Al Hamwo stay in seclusion with his brother's wife. "
Translation: 918. Narrated Ibn Abbas may Allah be pleased with themthat he heard the Prophet saying: " It is not permissible for a man to be alone with a woman, and no lady should travel except with a Mahram (her husband or a person whom she cannot marry in any case forever; e.g. her father, brother... etc.). Then a man got up and said; ' O Allah's Messenger! I have been enlisted in the army for such and such expedition and my wife is proceeding for performing Hajj. Allah's Messenger said: " Go, and perform Hajj with your wife. " (Bukhari).
Translation: to death. This is known in Arabic. They say; ' Lion is death and war is death ' meaning it leads to death.